The concept of attraction is a chemical reaction in our brains that we all feel but can’t explain. It’s almost as instantaneous and second nature as breathing. We seem to respond before we fully comprehend that it’s happening. It is powerful, both mentally and physically. It’s a factor that plays a direct role in the success and reproduction of our species.
But what is attraction, biologically speaking? Form a scientific point of view, let’s explore what draws us to certain people over others.
There is an old saying that women marry men who remind them of their fathers, and men marry women who remind them of their mothers. That speculation may have some truth to it, research suggests. Even if it isn’t a healthy bond, we tend to recreate our childhood relationship dynamics.
The same concept can be positive, however. As creatures of habit, we love what makes us feel more understood. We may gravitate towards people who share our interests or quirks. You may notice someone based on them sharing a favorite band, a similar sense of humor, or hobbies.
You have probably felt the pull of an exotic difference. As human beings, we are naturally drawn to things that we find new, exciting, and unfamiliar. As the old saying goes, “opposites attract.” It is true. But does it bridge the bond beyond a general sense of attraction?
Science claims that we don’t really choose to pursue any relationship that doesn’t align with our interests and values. So, while you may find a strong likeness for someone totally different than you, it will probably not be tangible for a long-term courtship.
We can’t deny the natural five senses we’ve been given to experience the world around us. When it comes to the way our bodies respond to others, our sensory is vital. Our bodies give off pheromones, hormones, and chemicals that play a role in drawing in potential mates.
Obviously, a response to the way someone looks would be most common. But we can also attract to the way someone smells, the tone and delivery of someone’s voice, the texture of someone’s skin or hair, and even the way a kiss tastes.
Symmetry and Body Construction
For purposes of reproduction, men and women unwittingly look for traits in the opposite sex. Men with more muscular bodies and women with more curvature in the hips tend to turn more heads on a subconscious level. Curves trigger a primal instinct in a man’s brain that a woman is ready to bear children.
Many case studies have shown how facial symmetry sparks a greater sense of attraction for both men and women. It’s a visual display of good genes that you feel comfortable passing on to your hypothetical children.
Likewise, people often pair up in terms of how attractive they find themselves. This means that you are more likely to pick a partner that you feel matches your level of looks.
Health and Mindfulness
How you take care of your body is essential. This is true for the food you eat, to your daily habits, to your exercise regimen. Eyes are watching, identifying if you are a suitable mate based on your actions and preferences.
Studies find that women are more attracted to men who eat more produce as opposed to refined carbs. Men are found more attractive to women concerning how the foods you consume makes you smell. Women subconsciously size up men based on the signal their bodies give off in relation to diets.
Similarly, food preference and the way you take care of yourself can ultimately split couples up if it’s too drastic of a gap.
As a general rule, women are notorious for picking partners based on how they scale on emotional levels. If they find you charming, ambitious, and funny, you will have a better shot. On the other hand, men are more drawn to women based on physical attributes and overall kindness.
When you break it down, women are looking for a provider who can be emotionally, materially, and parentally dependable. Oppositely, men look for a woman who can be a doting caretaker and positive mother figure for their kids.
Even though we are past our caveman days, we still carry many primal qualities in our genetic codes. We seek potential mates based on subconscious responses as well as those we recognize.
Ultimately, we seek out suitable mates who appeal to our senses and fit our criteria for potential procreation. Love and attraction may still feel foreign, but it’s as ancient as time itself.