Sometimes it’s difficult to look at your relationship with your significant other objectively. Do you find yourself wondering if you’re in a healthy relationship? That’s natural. Even the best of relationships aren’t all rainbows and kittens.
Here are nine signs to look for to help you decide if you’re in a healthy relationship or not.
1. Communication Is Easy
If you feel a particular way about something, nothing should hold you back from telling your partner. Whether they left the toilet seat up again or you’re experiencing anxiety because of your job. You should be able to let your partner know how you’re feeling without worrying about how they’ll react or even wanting to “spare them the details.”
2. You Can Be Yourself
For most people, it doesn’t happen overnight, even with people we feel an immediate connection to. After all, most of the time, we put on masks and facades for the rest of the world. We do this to protect our egos or to hide insecurities. With your partner, you shouldn’t have to do that.
Healthy relationships are ones that let you feel free to be yourself without judgment.
3. You Don’t Second Guess Your Partner
We all know that trust is essential, and it’s evident for big things like lying and cheating. It’s when it comes to the little things, though, that you can really test how healthy your relationship is. If you never thought of checking your partner’s phone or wondered if your partner actually meant something they said, you may have a strong bond!
4. Silence Isn’t Awkward
It’s one thing to find someone you can talk to about absolutely everything. Especially when you first start dating and are in the honeymoon phase, you’re learning everything about each other! Of course, you’ll want to talk each other’s ears off. As your relationship grows, though, sometimes one or both of you will just want to be left alone. Or better yet, enjoy each other’s company without feeling the need to fill the silence. If it’s easy for both of you to be quiet around each other without someone thinking something’s wrong, it’s an excellent sign things are going well.
5. Disagreeing Doesn’t Lead to Fighting
Chances are, you and your partner don’t agree about everything. Sometimes, healthy relationships can consist of two people who barely agree at all. From things as little as music preferences to who to vote for, disagreements are ok as long as you still respect each other without getting angry every time it happens.
6. You Respect Each Other
Boundaries are also a good sign of how healthy a relationship is. You should never feel the need to pressure or change your partner. People in healthy relationships respect each other’s boundaries and don’t mock each other’s limitations. If your partner isn’t feeling up to going out to an event and being social one weekend, respect that and find a solution that works.
7. Both of You Can Admit When You’re Wrong
One person should not be the only one apologizing throughout a relationship. Nobody’s perfect, and everyone should be able to admit when they’re wrong.
Healthy relationships mean putting your partner above your pride, and saying you’re sorry—and meaning it—when you should.
8. Financial Transparency
This is especially true in long-term relationships because finances can make or break any couple very fast. Huge issues such as debt, income, expectations, spending habits, and credit scores should be put on the table at some point. If you can do this without judgment or fighting, congratulations! Your relationship is probably pretty healthy.
9. You Know How to Reach Compromise
A healthy back and forth helps keep the power dynamic between two people equal so that one person isn’t always getting their way over the other. Considering how each other feels instead of always fighting for you want really helps a relationship last.
Even in a relationship, it’s important to acknowledge your partner as an individual, especially throughout their career, goals, and accomplishments. When you both put effort into supporting each other, expecting nothing but the same in return, you’re in a good relationship.